As a nerd geek female gamer, I've been through so many judgements and misconceptions about myself. I especially like anime, otome-ish games. Which makes me even more a “suspect” of loneliness while I am not actually. I had a normal life, it just i like otome and anime as a source of entertainment.
Before I get into why this is so problematic, let me say that I am in no way shape or form the authority on otome games and the types of people that play them. I can only speak for myself and my experiences. However, despite that I can still say with some degree of certainty that otome gamers get a bad rap sometimes. So I decided to write a post that addresses some of the misconceptions people have about otome gamers while still answering the above question.
*Disclaimer: The ideas presented in this post are my own, it’s fine if you disagree with me. All I ask is that you be respectful when commenting.
So after playing around with a ton of post ideas, I decided to list common misconceptions and answer the above question at the end. So without further ado, here are some common misconceptions about otome gamers:
Misconception #1: Only Women Play Otome Games
While it may be true that otome games were originally designed with a female audience in mind and to this day, women are the largest consumers of otome games and their related materials. But that in no way means that they are the only consumers of otome games, in fact there are a growing number of men out there who enjoy playing otome games. Sure their numbers are relatively small when compared to those of the female otome community, but the fact of the matter is that they do exist!
But, it’s a shame that when otome gamers are portrayed in the media, they are almost always women or teenage girls. I can’t tell you the number of times I’ve read comments written by men who wondered if it was normal for them to play otome games. I’m not a man, myself, but as far as I’m concerned it doesn’t matter who you are. Play whatever you want and don’t let anyone tell you otherwise!
Misconception #2: Otome Games are Practice for Real Relationships
Now, I am no relationship expert, I’m just a 20-something who has a healthy obsession with games, so my advice should be taken with a grain of salt. But, even though I’m no love guru… I still know a thing or two about relationships, at least as much as the next 20-something…
I don’t care how realistic a game is, it will never ever take the place of real life relationships. So the very idea of someone using otome games as practice for real life romantic relationships in the future is ridiculous. There is only one way to gain relationship points in real life, and it doesn’t involve stats raising or clearing checkpoints. It involves actual human interactions, whether that is through a dating app like Tinder or just meeting up with people at social events, love requires another (living) person. Spending hours romancing virtual hotties is not relationship practice… sorry.
Misconception #3: All Otome Gamers are AntiSocial Loners
For years, gamers have been portrayed as antisocial loners who spend their days locked up in their mother’s basements playing video games. Well, the same holds true for otome gamers, people seem to think that the only people that play otome games are lonely women with too much time on their hands.
But, the truth is that otome gamers come in all shapes and forms, in fact many hold full time jobs, have families, and do just about everything else normal healthy individuals do. Sure, there will always be exceptions, but for the most part everyone I know that plays otome games lead fairly normal lives. In fact, they are some of the most social and fun people I’ve met and it’s a shame the loner stereotype is so prevalent.
Misconception #4: Only Single Women Play Otome Games
Now it’s time to address the question that started this post…
“Is it wrong for me to play otome games even if I have a boyfriend in real life?”
The short answer, “Hell no!” Why is this even a question?! I guess I should clarify that I am in no way passing judgement on the person who asked this question, because up until a few years ago I too thought that only lonely single women played otome games. It was only after I started playing otome games myself and I began interacting with other fans of otome games that I realized how diverse the community really was.
I’ve met several people who are in happy and healthy relationships and they also enjoy playing otome games. I also know several single folks who also enjoy playing otome games. For most, playing otome games is the same as playing any other video game, there really isn’t some deep psychological reason behind it. Most people play otome games because they are fun! Sure some are in it for the escapism or the fantasy aspects, but for the most part people play them because they want to… your relationship status has no bearing on that! So why is it that people still think that otome games are only for single women?
If you kinda like the game type that I like, kindly check for Memories Interactive. Indonesian otome game that’ll surprise you on how exciting the stories are. You can download here if you’re using Android or here if you’re using iOS.
I believe, like me, everyone is wanting to be a princess deep down in our heart. It’s a long-lived imagination that I have had since I was a little girl. Of course not all of us, like me, again, are born in a royal family. It's just not my destiny I guess. But i find a way to be a princess without ruining a real kingdom by my stupid decision. Play a game about it. Luckily, there are several games I found where we all can be the princess we always wanted to be. Here we go:
1. Chess of Blades is a BxB title that sees the player in the shoes of Rivian, an introvert who is told by his high-ranking father to attend an extravagant five-day festival in his place. As soon as Rivian gets there, he meets a colorful cast of characters who all catch Rivian’s attention, for better or for worse. However, when a crime is committed on the second day of festivities, Rivian finds himself stuck right in the middle. He decided it might be the best to get to know the people around him and find out what’s going, or else he might find himself at the end of someone’s sword.
Each route has a different crime that Rivian and his potential romance interest need to solve. All of them are intriguing and keep you on the edge of your seat wondering what’s going to happen next. There are three main routes and a secret one. So, if you’re wondering what kind of adventures these men will take Rivian on, then you might want to check out Chess of Blades.
The game does have an 18+ patch readily available if that’s something you’re interested in!
2. If you’ve played any game in the Princess Maker series, then Long Live the Queen is a modern version of those games. Much like in those games, you’re trying to raise the central character to be the best queen she can be or die trying.
In Long Live the Queen, you play as a fourteen-year-old girl who must step up and take the crown after her mother’s untimely death. Of course, everyone around you is also vying for the position of ruler, so they’ll do whatever it takes—even if that means killing a child.
Your goal is to make it to your coronation day. In order to do that, you need to build your stats and do events. Depending on your stats, you might just make it out of that event alive. Your stats will also dictate the path your character will go down: will you become a bloodthirsty ruler or a peaceful queen whose followers will sing praises about across generations? That’s for you to decide!
3. In My Vow to My Liege, you play as FuChai, the new king of Ng. However, in reality, you’re the Princess of Wu, who was forced to live as her brother after an attempt to break their ties with the Dragon God went horribly wrong, resulting in her brother’s death. While she lives a lie, she’s on a mission to finish off the Dragon God before it can claim her life and everyone else’s.
Of course, there are four men who’ll be by FuChai’s side as she tries to navigate ruling a country and completing her mission. If you’re familiar with ancient Chinese history, you’ll recognize the name FuChai, as he was the last king of the Wu kingdom. The game decides to take a few liberties by building an alternative historical story surrounding a female FuChai and the events at the time. If you like Hakuoki, games that take place in a historical setting, or even visual novels that feature gore (which this game has a lot of for an otome title), then you’ll enjoy your time with My Vow to My Liege.
There’s one more, I’ve been playing this for quite a time now because it’s addictive. It’s called Memories Interactive An Indonesian otome game where you can be not only a princess in a series called RWC (Red White Cinderella) which an interesting Indonesian folklore in a modern setting, but also a lot other more stories you can enjoy. Be a fashion star, be a vampire or be in a magic school. You can download here if you’re using Android or here if you’re using iOS
Have you heard of Otome Game? If you follow visual novel games and Japanese culture, recently I've been playing an otome game called Memories, this game revolves around the romantic relationship between the main character and several other male characters. A "love" simulation, visual novel, or dating sim game. If you want to play it too you can access Memories Interactive An Indonesian otome platform where you can enjoy many stories. You can download here for iOS or here for Android
Let’s calculate how many of your friends are talking about playing otome dating simulation games daily? Let’s say the way we’re talking about Mobile Legends Bang Bang? Not much, isn't it? I believe even nowadays dating simulation games are considered “not a game” in gaming communities. Some of my friends are even a little bit uncomfortable talking about this.
This is, of course, because of the general reaction I get—one somewhere between pity and disgust. It seems that the common understanding we have all agreed on is that playing otome dating sims means I am some kind of social failure—that I am unable to get a girl in real life and thus have turned to virtual girls instead. And while that might be true for some, I doubt that is true for most people who play dating sims—and most certainly not for me.
For me, an otome dating sim is just like any other piece of fiction: an escape to a life different from your own. I will never be a magic-wielding hero tasked with saving the world—nor will I be involved in an epic high school romance where I find true love. But thanks to books, movies, TV, and, of course, games, I am able to live these lives vicariously through fictional characters.
Yet, for some reason, while it is okay to immerse yourself in the role of a space marine slaughtering endless hordes of aliens in a game, it's bad to do the same in a story about falling in love. When you take a step back, this makes little sense. After all, looking down on a person for playing dating sims is just like looking down on someone for liking romance films or reading romance novels—hell, a dating sim basically is an interactive romance novel.
Frankly, this mindset is hurting gaming as a whole. As it stands now, the overwhelming majority of big budget games are adventures—the interactive equivalent of action movies, so to speak. They are empowerment fantasies designed to pump you up and take you for a fantastical ride. And while there is nothing wrong with games like this, to then look down upon games that try to explore drama or romance simply stunts gaming as an art form—preventing it from growing in new and unforeseen ways.
So don't be embarrassed if you like otome dating sims, or any other type of game, for that matter, that breaks away from the standard acceptable ideal. Admitting you like it and telling others why is the first step in improving gaming as a whole.
If you’re a lady and just happen to have a switch console, I’m suggesting you play these games. It’ll be a new experience for you if you haven’t managed to know the otome genre before. My hint: believe me you’ll like it. It’s a game genre focused on giving the best experiences for women. Made mostly from women game developers as well. So here are the list:
1. Akash: Path of the Five
has a cute and compelling cast of fully voiced characters, plenty of romantic scenes that are both adorable and steamy. The game also incorporates one of my favourite video game tropes/themes: elemental magic. As the only girl born in about 200 years in the village of elemental humanoids, you are (obviously) special; children in this village remain genderless until they are about ten years old, at which point they usually become male and their element comes forth. As a woman, you get access to all of the elements until your coming of age ceremony when Aurora will have to choose an element to specify in.
2. Future Blessings
Continues the story from where you left off, allowing you to see what happens with Cardia and her chosen love at the end of the first game. As well, Future Blessings has some side stories and a fancy alternate romance as well, making it well worth the purchase if you loved the first game.
3. Dream Daddy
game about a single dad moving to a cul-de-sac full of other singles (sometimes not-so-single) dads and establishing a healthy relationship with those dads and maybe even falling in love?! Sign me up!I was hooked at the start of this game during the “Build that Dad!” section where I was able to put together my daddy: turquoise hair, glasses, skinny hipster in a tuxedo? Yes, please! Then I was ready to take my daddy out on the town! I mean out TO the town where he and his spunky daughter were moving.
Memories offers several genres of stories, including romance, horror, and mystery in the form of visual novels and chat stories. Some stories are also special editions, such as the “Dilan 1990” and “Dilan 1991” editions which were inspired by the novel of the same name by Pidi Baiq, as well as the story “CoLoN” which was inspired by the Japanese boy band of the same name.
In addition, in this Memories application users will get daily missions to get rewards in the form of diamonds. This diamond can later be used when the user is reading the story so that the storyline can be more exciting. For each completed story, users will also get a reward key that can be used to unlock new stories. In addition, rewards, keys, and diamonds are also provided in the form of in-game purchases.
For those who are curious about this Memories game, you can visit Memories Interactive or download the game here if you're an iOS user and here if you're on Android.
android-memories.onelink.me/mgXf/OtomeEngIf you’re asking me, what is Otome to me? I’ll answer it with: A game to meet 2d men(s), choosing them by reading a bunch of words. You can explore for a while. Then try to rush things as soon as there is a collectible cg card from a 2d design man we fall in love with. Is it spot on? Geez I hope not because it’s of course more complicated than that.
I can say one of the most common reasons people start to play an Otome game is: boredom. Yes, why? Because that’s what happened to me. Otherwise why do we want to have a relationship with 2d men? Why? Or maybe it can happen when a friend of yours (like me) starts introducing you to this kind of game genre. Making you awake at 2 a.m in the morning shimping a lovey dovey conversation.
I still have several other -more reasonable- reasons why we do like an Otome game. Well first of all. It’s all about love isnt it? We do love love to begin with. It’s the most common human feeling since the beginning of human history. So doing a game with love as a center of the gameplay is of course will be relatable and fun. Second, how many of us here want to escape our boring life (or is it just me, i don't know). An otome game is providing us that safe space to escape our life. A playground for us to choose whatever option offered to us. Of course without a feeling that we’ll be messing up because again, it’s a game.
Next, personally i like to choose. But I don't like other people judging me for what I choose. More specific, just like other self centered human beings in this whole universe. I like to stamp everything that I choose as my own personalized thing. An otome game is providing me with a sense of that. Some may choose a prince charming but god damn i prefer this dayum demon. Again, not even my mom can complain about my taste in man this time. I can be happy in my own way. We can be happy in our own way.
I believe i am not that special or weird or specially weird. Otome game is not a game just found yesterday. It has a community which I'm not hoping for a similar person like me because that’ll be weird. It gave me a sense of togetherness. Afterall knowing another person liking what we’re liking is always nice isn't it?
If you like an otome genre or want to find out more, you can access Memories Interactive. An Indonesian otome platform where you can enjoy many stories which i’ve been playing day & night right now. You can download here for iOS or here for Android
Have you ever heard of Otome Game? If you’re following the visual novel game genre and Japanese culture for a long time, you must know that already. But you haven’t. Otome game is a story-based game targeted towards women. Mostly, an otome is a visual novel game that revolves around the romantic relationship of the main character and several other male characters. A “lovey-dovey” simulation, visual novel or dating sims games.
The history of otome started in 1994 when Angelique was released by Koei in Japan. Take notes: It was created by an all-women team. Targeting teenagers at the beginning but surprisingly getting popular in mature audiences as well. Well, at least women in their 20s. Three aspects made Angelique considered the seed of all otome genre games: A focused romance, easy to control & utilize multimedia.
The rest, as they say, is history. This game then populates as the fanbase of otome genre is rising. Most of the gameplay is getting more & more rich. From only a conversation based game, to more collectible items, more features such as chat & call etc. The illustration is also getting better & better as time goes by.
Now, the game is known for its fantasy aspect. It’s providing a player for entertainment alternatives. Where you’re not only reading the story nor enjoying the visuals, but also have an agency to play. To be involved in the story. Choose how to react in certain situations. Even experiment in the wildest situation you can imagine. Even to some extent of several otome games, enjoying mature content.
I believe those premises are what keep otome genres there. While other games may offer the audience with other things. Otome will always be there offering you something that hasn't changed since the 90s no matter what update or upgrade they’re getting these days. A woman's perspective. A game created by women that can be enjoyed by women.
If you like an otome genre or want to find out more, you can access Memories Interactive An Indonesian otome platform where you can enjoy many stories. You can download here for iOS or here for Android